Grief Ministry

The mission of the St. Benedict Grief Ministry is to support those who are suffering grief from the loss of a loved one and to “companion” with them as they walk the road of bereavement to a “new normal.”

Please contact griefministry@stbenedictparish.org for more information.

What is grief? What is mourning? Are they the same?

 Grief is a natural reaction to loss, a deep sorrow following the death of a loved one. Grief has been described as a strong, sometimes overwhelming emotion steming from a major loss like the death of a loved one.

 What is mourning?

 Mourning is the open expression of thoughts and feelings regarding the death of a loved one.

 Are grief and mourning interchangeable terms?

 Mourning refers to the outward expressions of a grief which is internal and unique for each person who grieves.

 For the bulletin – weekend of May 11-12, also add to grief ministry spot on the website

What is grief ministry?

 Grief ministry is a way of serving others by offering loving support and comfort at times of loss. These ministers offer the gift of their time, to hear the thoughts and share the tears of those who are mourning.

Grief ministry provides comfort and support in a number of ways.

Care can be expressed through:

           - prayer opportunities,

            -assistance with daily tasks from funeral arrangements to food or transportation,

            -a comforting presence to listen and stay in touch, 

           - offering of grief materials and literature,

           - a grief support group

A Grief Ministry will begin at St. Benedict parish this summer. A grief support group will begin meeting weekly at St. Benedict from Aug 28 - Nov 13 on Wednesday afternoons. A program description will follow next month. Watch the bulletin or check the website for further information.

If you feel called to this ministry, want to participate in the grief support group or have any questions, please contact Mary Helen Gammon or Jane Talbot through griefministry@stbenedictparish.org

What is the “companioning” model of grief support?

The Companioning Model is about walking with those who are grieving. Grief support is not about “leading” or “fixing” the griever. Companioning is about ears that can listen and a heart that cares. Companioning is about honoring another's pain by being alongside them, respecting their journey but not taking charge of it. Companions are friends, not experts. Using the companioning model one can support another in reaching a point of reconciliation with grief. With that reconciliation, life continues and the griever is able to move from a relationship based on the physical presence of the loved one to a relationship based on memories. The companioning model is flexible and flowing, gentle and loving. In the end the companioning model honors the fact the each griever's journey is his/her own and is unique.

The Companioning Model of grief support is based on the work of Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. In our grief support group, we will use his book entitled Understanding Your Grief and the associated materials for sharing. The program will meet for 12 weekly sessions beginning August 28, 2019.